POST-12: “Paradigm-Shift”👩🏾🤝👨🏽💏🚻❤️.
Hey Friend!...What's up?.. I got a good one for you today. 😉 A-friend of mine (highly-intelligent woman), recently posted on her Social Media (A Very popular, Tweet made by @kerihilson). It reads: “men who provide Emotional- Security and display Wise-Leadership will get the softest, most-feminine, relaxed, trusting, “guard down”, submissive, nurturing version of their woman”. (Naturally, the comment section was sure to be in an uproar). I've seen this tweet Re-shared on multiple occasions, & usually pass it by because of that. There's No-point, wasting, valuable-time “Vegging-out” on sensational, media where communications, aren't fruitful.
However, knowing this woman I could expect a pretty, healthy dialogue around the subjects of: “Modern-Day Relationships, Gender-Roles, and Traditional-Expectations” (which is essentially where this post is going).
So, I decided to place-mark it, and-review later, once I had the time in my schedule… Sure enough, I was not disappointed. There were at least 40 Responses given by Educated men and women from various backgrounds (corporate-Professionals, singles, parents, etc). Mind you (for added context), this friend of mine, happens to fit into All of the above criterion. She has no problem telling it like it is, and is a very, rational-thinking individual.
Surprisingly, the comments were not as belligerent, as you might expect from a -post on such, sensitive-subjects....(Salute). A testament to her social-circles.
Many-valid, yet-differing-opinions were shared froboth-sexes...The Dialogue was Great 👍, so I decided to leave my two cents…
With respect to all-individuals who choose the lives they want to live, and the relationships they wish to foster, I personally-like things “the old fashioned way”. Romantic, Traditional, considerate, and ever-growing ❤️🌼.
I made a Recent-post about “All things ART 🎨 in life…”. The Fact that Art is such an amazing, yet unbounded force in nature (unlike science).—Love is a form of Art, as well as relationships. There is no “one way” to identify them. No irrefutable fact on how they should be run/managed, and I think that's what makes the Topics so frustrating!
Today, we live in a highly-open, communicative-environment, where our lives have been catered to by technology. We are literally spoiled by a wealth of options, and have the ability to simplify our Everyday actions, thanks to the advancement of mankind!.. Pretty awesome. 😁
The problem with this (however) now becomes the fact that we All have (in some form or fashion) adopted the “Bianca” Attitude (from the movie 🎥🍿: “Wilky Wonkas chocolate 🍫 factory �”…..
“😠Don’t..…Care…How…I want it now!..” .…( A wretched-Approach to Living….if you Ask me. )🙄
Now, don't get me wrong… I would Love to lay Back in an Ancient-Greek manner, while having Maid-servants feed me grapes 🍇 at my beckoning-call. Being fanned-down by Large, tropical plants, as a Harp’s melodies are played in my background. But that's just not realistic.
Technologies are an assistant, not a replacement to Mankind… We make the tools, used to ease the burdens of our everyday lives, so that hopefully, we can spend more-time on those things that matter most: Working-relationships.
This includes School, the workplace, family-Life, Friends, and esp. Romance. The element of human nature still exists.
Speeding up Processes/tasks, will not equate to an equal-rise of human- enrichment or development. In fact, I would argue it would have an opposite effect.
Step-one is Understanding this concept.
Step-two is Embracing this reality as truth and “working backwards” to grow your Emotional-Intelligence, and Your whole being.. In order to match with today’s times. Easier said than done, but there is no looking Back now. Technology is here to stay, and so are human beings. Who cares if you can send information faster, if you don’t really care at all.
This is a painful truth to embrace, and one we all must-deal with. My hope, is that the “embracement” isnt so painful along this journey called Life… Conversations must occur, and tears must fall, but they cannot be forced.
The premise is to Allow the love of life to flow freely, And receive the abundance from all the actions you’ve Manifested. Forcing Those interactions into a ‘pipeline', only breeds chaos, and causes the 'pipes' to burst.. noone wins…
“Cup, ½-full” is the mindset for Success, and Gratitude is our foundation. A pain-body will exist on either side of your efforts, so it's best to follow these instructions, and “Let, Love-Live”.
The words: “Emotional security, submissive, wise-Leadership, Trust, nurturing, etc..” can ALL have multiple-meanings, for multiple-people. Therefore, I choose to be Happy and relish in the sweetness of Faith and possibilities. My “two-cents” point to the facts of: “What if?”.
For many, “What if?”-- can be a very, scary question… what if things go wrong? What if I can never trust again? What if all my efforts go in vain, and I never get to experience “heaven on Earth”?... What if?... What if my imperfections are not enough? What if the seniors before me were all wrong?.. what if I try to take initiative, and disregard the small, gut voice from within? What if?... Well, the idea 💡 scares me too.
I hate-conspiracies, and Fear-mongering. Furthermore, I Equally-dislike Conformity (or change) that doesn't Feel-right...So, what are we left with besides Hope?.. The opposite?!!.. 😒😒😒.. no, thank-you.
I appreciate the Brighter side of Life.
Imagination, Care, People- living- prosperously, kindness, Genuine-Sincerity, honesty, fairness, integrity, and so on. Humans are both falable, and beautiful as they are...History proves this. Knowing what you don't know isn't always so bad. And living a modest, adult life is hard-enough without the added frustrations of piling, individual inadequacies on the ones you supposedly love. The Truth is, most of us haven't been honest in accounting for our own faults, and think that somehow we can fix The problems of everyone else.
But all is not lost. We have billions of people on planet earth 🌍 who want to add value to each other, and not cause harm. Some of these people will go to tremendous lengths, to make sure that freedom of choice is maintained. All we have to do is stay-positive, be Thoughtful, learn and grow.
Your good-nature alone will help you to make decisions in Life that “plant seeds” of love, beauty, and Everything else we’d hope to have. Our parents and grandparents couldn't imagine having movies on demand, or cellular phones. They weren’t afforded these luxuries and oftentimes worked really hard to get what little they had or have… they had to trade time for money. Whether directly or indirectly, their efforts were just enough to provide the Lifestyles we enjoy today.
There was still dream and imagination, but life was very different. The time allowed for the development of emotional intelligence was sparse.--- We have that time now. Slow-down, and think a bit. It may be a little painful at first, but so is staring into the sun 🌞( and she provides Life for our very existence! )😉…
What if Love/life could be so beautiful?.. what if?... Sure, there's a chance that things could go wrong, and we make Mistakes, but how we RESPOND to these mistakes is what makes the difference. Response over Reactions = Very-Hard.
RESPONSE, requires intelligence, wisdom, Emotional security, leadership, and Trust.
Please, don't short Yourself & get frustrated with things you don't know/understand and make irreversible mistakes.
Plz, Come from a place of Love first, and curiosity. Mixed feelings and emotions will occur...But we have to Breathe through it…Pray, through the process. Hope, for a Brighter-Tomorrow. 🌞 The outcome should be the same… “Put good in, you get-good-out”. 🤗 Happy hump 🐪 day, y’all! #PerseveranceAndGrowth